When we got serious with trains our local hobby shop owner at the time told my Wife, "He's not in the bar with the guys and he's not out chasing other women. He's in the basement playing with trains".
My Wife has no trouble with me in the basement, the hobby shop or a train show.
Of course it didn't hurt every Christmas season he would give the spouses a very large Hershey bar as a present.
Have Fun! Ron