I don't want folks here to think I married a controlling monster (well, she is a little controlling). Sure, we butted heads for a while as she was raised to be totally self-sufficient and I was 30 at the time (and an Army officer), so it took a few years for us to chill and gel with one another.
It's hardly perfect, but I truly feel that we're much closer than we were at first and get more so every day. Frankly, I love and like (which I think is more important that loving) my wife more each day. I feel like I'm living with my best friend now. I have adapted substantially to being a partner and spouse, I think.
She's adapted as well, too. In fact, she came up with idea to have some large stuff to be moved out of the room so the layout could go in there (as otherwise, there was little wall space). Without that, I wouldn't have but a short 'L-shaped' switching layout along 2 walls. The final day my favorite hobby shop was open, she saw me drooling over a 50-tonner diesel I'd wanted to get for the Army use on the layout and said to just get it. I never would have bought it otherwise.
She also made the curtains for underneath the fascia, having realized my vision of a completed 'presentation worthy' part of the room. Heck, the last time we went to a big hobby shop last month, she was picking stuff off the wall asking if I needed it. Most of it wouldn't work (city style light posts on a layout where hardly anyone had electricity, etc) but I deeply appreciated the effort and told her the same.
