Hiker39, I enjoyed reading your comments today, and think it's a very good thing that there is diversity among model railroaders.
I probably said what I'm about to say 2 years ago when I started this topic. My wife, though not involved, is highly tolerant of the hobby. I once heard her tell someone about my passion for trains: "at least I know he is home in the basement and not gallivanting with some blonde bombshell."
She also thinks it's just fine that I have several hobbies and more friends as a result. I, in turn, am supportive of her main outside interest, which is taking an acting class, now being done via Zoom.
I've been married to the same woman for 43 years. Arnold