Firstly a huge thanks to all the help especially from @gunrunnerjohn. In the end I should learn to quit second guessing myself. The relay was bad I had a relay that fit and does operate. Probably not the best selection but I had it on hand.
it is a 12VDC relay, like I said it does operate on the 8V. And the pin out matched. If I remember correctly this a Form C relay, it is a little long and does make a tight fit on the PCB but it will fit 😉