I've noticed that some couplers are more voltage sensitive than others. You might also try some dry lubricant to see if that helps.
I'd also look into the voltage drops. I see around 18.8 volts all around my layout. If I measure at the yard tracks and then start up a diesel with smoke and six passenger cars, I see a .2-.3 volt drop for the roughly 1 amp draw. If I were seeing a couple of volts of drop for one train, I'd be concerned.