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Greg Houser posted:

Dotty,

Thank-you for keeping us updated on Marty.  Like everyone else, this is not the news I hoped to hear.   My hope is that you both are able to take some small comfort in knowing you've both touched many people both near and far and the world is a better place for having the both of you in it.  You both are in all of our continued prayers.  

-Greg

I can't find words that say it better than Greg did. Bless you both and all those you love.

dottyperry posted:

RD, the restricted blood flow to the lower leg is one  reason the scrape doesn’t heal, depressed immune system during chemo is the other. An amputation would also not heal and would likely be reinfected. Chemo can’t be given for a while before and after surgery, which allows the cancer in other parts of the body to regrow. What to do about this  and the original tumor in the leg have  been hashed out by us and the teams together (podiatry, vascular, oncology) for months. Hazards outweigh any benefits. We knew from the beginning that all that could be offered was palliative care, and they’ve done a great job. Now he’s tired of fighting. 

Dotty,

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my dumb question.. when faced with such sad news one often turns to desperate ideas to try and deal and find solutions ... I should have known you would have already exhausted every avenue ..  my heart bleeds..

You are both in my prayers... Gods peace and grace be with you both..

Hi Marty

I only know you through the forum as you invited me to participate. Thank you for your constant timely and sage advice. Our prayers go out to you and Dotty at this time. May the ultimate conductor on this new train you are riding be kind and loving with you.  As you can see through all the many notes and letters you are well loved.

Best Wishes

Duncan

I didn't know Marty as well as many of you did, but I did get to chat with him and Dotty briefly in the restaurant on the fairgrounds at the York meet two or three meets ago.  His hospitality, warmth and helpfulness came through even in such a short meeting - showing that what has been written about him is, if anything, an understatement.  I have no idea whether Marty knew the quotation from Henri-Frédéric Amiel (sometimes used as a benediction at the end of church services) but he certainly lived his life as if he did: 

“Life is short. We don't have much time to gladden the hearts of those who walk this way with us. So, be swift to love and make haste to be kind.”

It seems to me that Marty exemplified that spirit in his wide-open hospitality and generous giving of himself, his knowledge, and his time to all he came in contact with.  I know I felt that wonderful warmth of spirit from him and Dotty at York.  He will leave this world and especially this hobby much better for his being here.  May he find peace and comfort and relief from his pain and may Dotty continue to find the strength to support and care for him.  

Peter Gentieu

 

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Alex, when you presented him with that model of his home, that was obviously a very special moment in Marty’s life. You can see it in the video. I am so glad we have these precious few moments of Marty’s life preserved in this clip.

I did not give credit to whoever shot this video because I have forgotten who shot it! Maybe you can fill in that missing piece of info, lest people think that I shot the video, which I did not.

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Marty and Dotty,

You both seem such a wonderful team. Dotty, prayers continue for strength. I think it beautiful that you are seeing to it that Marty is able to confront this on his terms. Marty, I commend you for having the courage to have fought, and the peace in your heart to know when quality outweighs longevity. May God bless you both. Having never known either of you, praying for you and checking the updates has still made me feel like I have been privy to a most beautiful love story, laden with kindness and gratitude by all who've been so honored that you've shared it with us.

Rich Melvin posted:

Alex, when you presented him with that model of his home, that was obviously a very special moment in Marty’s life. You can see it in the video. I am so glad we have these precious few moments of Marty’s life preserved in this clip.

I did not give credit to whoever shot this video because I have forgotten who shot it! Maybe you can fill in that missing piece of info, lest people think that I shot the video, which I did not.

Rich, I shot the video on my cell phone. Alex planned the project in the spring. I took pictures of the outside of the house and train room and measurements of the outside of the house then sent him the information, so by Alex's open house in August it was finished. As usual, Alex did a GREAT job!  Marty's most prized possession.

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So much so well stated about such a wonderful person that it is difficult to add anything. I was privileged to be a friend of Marty. He and Dotty stayed at our house a number of times and he assisted me in the layout I built in my prior house. One result was the FITZHENRY IRONWORKS twin bridges. One is pictured with my "Trooper" train passing over it. The Trooper train is an unshrouded MTH "J", painted and with LEDs from JDS trains. The picture is from 2013.

Gerry 

 

Trooper Train on Fitzhenry bridge 8-24-13

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Marty & Dottie - May The Lord Almighty Give You Both Grace and Peace.

I pray that all will be well as I am a firm believer in Miracles, and I pray that one will happen for Marty.

I have you both in my daily Prayers, and I pray that The Lord God will cure all.

Again, you are both in my daily prayers for a miraculous recovery.

My sincere prayers for you, Marty, and your family Dotty.  I pray God provides you all to your needs.  I have only ever met a few people from this forum and never Marty.  I always know Marty was a very helpful and direct person.  I respect that he gave his opinions, based on his experiences, and was always willing to give help to others known or not.  I pray for God's grace for you all.

Like many here, I only know Marty thru the forum.

Years ago, I posted that I was one of those who did not look carefully where I was plugging my DCS WIU into the TIU, and fried that one circuit.   I mentioned I was looking for new hardware.

Marty saw the post and immediately chimed in, asked me if I was good at soldiering, PCB work. I answered in the affirmative and he came back with part numbers and a picture of the location of the part that needed replacing.   A $200 mistake became a $2.50 mistake.

However, the details were not what was important:  It was the willingness to jump in and offer help to someone he didn't know and hadn't chatted with before.   Marty even checked in a while later to ask if the repair went okay.

I just wanted to share my brief encounter with Marty.  He was and is a fine example that we all should strive to emulate.

My thoughts and prayers to Marty and Dotty.

 

 

Marty wouldn't know my face, but we corresponded a few times via email.  One time, a buddy of mine needed a Lionel C&O Hudson manual so I posted a want ad on the forum.  Marty emailed me and said he would just send it to me.  I offered to pay him for it, but he declined.  He reminded me of someone who would go out of his way just to help someone.  We need more Marty's -both on and off of the forum.

Prayers for Marty and his wife.  

I was only in his company once, the day he received his house from Alex.  It was clear at the time this was a man highly regarded, beloved if you will.  It is sad to hear of this. The hobby will be losing a great man, I hope we can find some way to cement his legacy for future 3 rail fans.  

Marty's legacy has  already been cemented in this circle  for many years. 

As St.  Augustine wrote in book 10 of his "Confessions", " As long as one has their memory, any event any relationship is never really over.  We can relive and savor precious memories for the rest of our lives".  (loose recollection)

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Very simply put. This is one GIANT of a man. His knowledge, willingness to share, and welcoming personality touched many of us. I was fortunate to visit Marty's layout on trip to Boston. On my few trips to York, he was always there with a smile and a "hello" to the west coast contingent. My prayers go out to Dottie and the family.

Jeff

Prayers, Dottie. For both you and Marty.

this is horrible news.

Meeting Marty, and having opportunity to interact with him at York is one of my finest memories. Truely a giving person. Marty spent a good deal of time teaching me repair, sharing his knowledge while I was working with Vince. Truely a fine and giving man. I’ve met a lot of good folks through this forum, folks who were willing to teach and help. But none finer than my brother in blue.

Marty, and Dottie,  may God be with you and your family in the time you have.

Know this, my friend, you will carry on in us all. Through us, those you have touched so warmly, you will live forever.

We love you!

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Marty and I have been though a lot together and he is truly my brother from another mother.  He gave tremendous service to our country when we were both in the service during RVN and later as a highly respected and decorated police officer.  And thank God for Dotty who gave so much of herself for years to care for Marty.  No words will ever suffice to convey the tremendous loss....but we will meet again down range!  Love and prayers my friend.  Jim

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The outpouring of love and prayers for Marty and Dottie during this very difficult time are a testament to how much both of you have met to this hobby and beyond.

Marty is truly a fighter and has fought this battle like the warrior he is. It's almost overwhelming to think of the challenges Marty has had to face with his battle with cancer. Marty could not have had a better partner, advocate and caretaker than Dottie.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both and hope that Marty can live out the rest of his days pain free. Marty is already an institution here at OGR but to those who were fortunate enough to call Marty their friend he will always be remembered as a true Mensch, a Jewish term for a wonderful, caring person who always is willing to help others out of the goodness in his heart.

Steve Tapper

 

 

Good evening everyone, Marty and Dotty and friends, just a note saying You All are in our prayers continually.  When I returned to the model train hobby in 1996, I watched a VHS Video from O Guage Railroading back when I believe Myron Biggar owned the magazine, (I think I’m correct), and Marty was quite the Operator, Operating a team of Lionel ZW’s, just before Command Control became the game changer. In the video, Marty ran many beautiful passenger trains, he has a Bunch, and one of his maneuvers was changing Locomotives by backing one of the passenger trains onto a siding, then uncoupling the engine and and changing with another to take the train on another fun destination. He called this a “Crowd Pleaser”, so, I just wanted to add to the many kind and gracious remarks from the last 14 pages that Marty was and continues to be, a Crowd Pleaser. I am glad I know him. May the Lord bless you all. We are your Tennessee, Kentucky, and Indiana Connection. Happy Railroading.

Re-reading the January 1995 issue of CTT as we speak.

I remember being amazed as a 12 year old by the featured layout. It had a turntable, beautiful brass steam engines, and tracks, upon tracks, upon tracks in the passenger terminal. WOW!

Little did I know that this wonderful layout was Marty’s and how much of an influence he would have 25 years later on not only myself but the hobby in general.

My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family...

We are witnessing tribute after tribute (14 pages of them so far) to a man who has lived his life well, and has generously reached out to others, some of whom were complete strangers.  He has had time to fight his disease, and to make peace, although, by all accounts, he had no apologies to make.  Those of us who never had the opportunity to meet Marty Fitzhenry have missed out on what would have certainly been a very pleasant experience.  This surely is what we all hope for someday -- to be at peace, even if not free of discomfort, fondly-regarded by many, many people as our days dwindle, with our family at our side lovingly giving us back to our Creator.

His has been an extraordinary life, and those who have shared it are indeed fortunate.

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Marty is in a Hospice House. They are managing his pain, (hospice means no more chemotherapy, antibiotics, radiation, IVs, or other life extending measures. Only pain management.) and he is content to be where he is for his final days. The place is only 6 miles from Marty's house, so his daughter, grandson, and myself can visit daily, and spend the night with him in his room if he requests us to. We have known from the time he was diagnosed in May that this would be a step we would have to plan for, and we did.  As I said before, with this cancer there's no pulling through, no returning to health, no recovery, no getting well. He never wants me to read him the posts with these sentiments, he says he prefers to face the facts head on without projections of false hope. Now, we sit with him while he sleeps, holding his hand and remembering the good times with him when he's awake.

Dear Dotty and Marty, it’s painful to hear of Marty’s situation, I found myself reluctantly going to the forum somehow suspecting to hear bad news while wishing for the best. Transitioning to the next plain is very painful for those still here. Although I’ve never spoke with Marty in person, I’ve spoken with him on the phone for about an hour back and forth and I’ve seen him at York and at the NJ Hi-Raiders.  I almost got to speak with him at York but he was occupied and then I turned my head and he vanished. At this point a miracle is all that’s left and God is the deciding factor, regardless though you’ve lived a good life and touched more than 14 pages of well wishers, friends and family. I’ll make peace with myself and look forward to seeing you on the other side of the track where I expect you’ll be in charge of troubleshooting O scale trains..Rest and let the rest of us pray for a miracle.  May God bless and keep you both.

Marty was my first customer at Right of Way.  The beginnings of a long friendship started at the Ice Cream Stand in the Yellow Hall at York.  The journey took us thru many adventures including Train America Studios and Lionel Ohio.  God bless you Marty and God bless you Dotty and thank you for being an extraordinary caregiver to our beloved friend.

Lou N

Hi Dotty, I only met you and Marty a couple of times at the NJ Hi Railers, but I feel like you guys are a member of my family, the OGR Family.

the hard truth we all must face is that in Gods due time Peace is our final ultimate hope.

Good-by Marty, we never received the cure we all so ardently  prayed for, but know you are loved by all of us.

I don't think I will ever fix a toy train problem again without thinking of you.

You friend and admirer,

Mario Evangelista

"gg1man"

 

Dotty and Marty's Family,

I do not have any knowledge of the internal workings of your family.  So please pardon me if I choose the wrong words.

I just wanted to tell you from my safe distance that I gain more respect for you and Marty each time I hear the choices you have made. 

The decision that Marty is making is to face death as he faced life, loving you he has made the choice to speak his mind so no one will live in doubt as to what to do for him.   It is a magnanimous gesture.

Manny Levin

Dotty, Marty, and family

My thoughts will be with you this holiday season.  Marty is the richest man I know based on the amount of friends he has here.  It is an honor to know Marty and chat with him in the halls of York.  Please take comfort in the many lives Marty has impacted.  It's difficult to put my words down but I will say Marty is a good friend to all and has the respect of the entire O gauge community.  His kindness and legacy will live on with those who know him.  Stay comfortable my friend and know you are loved and respected.

Dotty please remember in this very difficult time we are here with you.  More importantly please take care of yourself as well.

I’m grateful for everything Marty taught me about fixing trains. I’ll also miss getting a little inside info on MTH. Lol. Whenever I would talk to him he always asked how my youngest daughter was doing with her Type1. Marty is a great guy and I’m glad I got to meet and attended a class at MTH with him. 

Thanks for everything Marty our thoughts are with you and Dotty and your family. 

Ms. Dotty,

Unfortunately, I had a inkling that this situation would be coming, but I am cannot believe this and I am upset for both You and Marty. I can only give you both my prayers for the both of you.

Again, I really do not know what to say at this time but I will continue to send You and Marty my prayers.

MartyE posted:

Dotty, Marty, and family

My thoughts will be with you this holiday season.  Marty is the richest man I know based on the amount of friends he has here.  It is an honor to know Marty and chat with him in the halls of York.  Please take comfort in the many lives Marty has impacted.  It's difficult to put my words down but I will say Marty is a good friend to all and has the respect of the entire O gauge community.  His kindness and legacy will live on with those who know him.  Stay comfortable my friend and know you are loved and respected.

Dotty please remember in this very difficult time we are here with you.  More importantly please take care of yourself as well.

Marty E, you wrote it so well!!  I agree with your sentiments!!

To Marty and Dotty,

my thought and prayers  are with you.

Marty, Dotty, We have never met but , in a Way, We did ,thanks to OGR and the forum.

All the good advises and story e you wrote have given us the magnitude of your generosity... We are all blessed by your contribution.

Your  legacy as ambassadors to this hobby will endure.

we dont bring  ours trains with us (unfortenately), but We bring all the goodness We have done... And by the response We see here , you bring a lot with you.

I hope that the people  at the hospice take good care of the physical  pain... We will be with you  for the  spiritual in our prayers...

Gotta Go and run some trains for you.

Good bless  both of you.

Jacques

 

 

Mark Boyce posted:
MartyE posted:

Dotty, Marty, and family

My thoughts will be with you this holiday season.  Marty is the richest man I know based on the amount of friends he has here.  It is an honor to know Marty and chat with him in the halls of York.  Please take comfort in the many lives Marty has impacted.  It's difficult to put my words down but I will say Marty is a good friend to all and has the respect of the entire O gauge community.  His kindness and legacy will live on with those who know him.  Stay comfortable my friend and know you are loved and respected.

Dotty please remember in this very difficult time we are here with you.  More importantly please take care of yourself as well.

Marty E, you wrote it so well!!  I agree with your sentiments!!

While I never had the opportunity to meet you Marty, may God comfort and be with you you, Dotty, and your family at this during this time and forever more.

Dotty, Thank you doing a fantastic service for we here on the forum and taking care of our friend Marty.  Let him know he is loved by all of his forum family, as are you.  May you and Marty's family find comfort here with our heart felt love for you both and how you two made a difference in our lives.  It is an honor and privilege to know the both of you.  You two have helped create a place here where all can come and show our knowledge and short coming as we all share and enjoy our passion for railroading.  May our Lord comfort and strengthen you both and as always you both are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dotty;

I hope what I say here comes out right.  You have been the pillar of strength that Marty needed through this ordeal and you are admired, loved and respected by everyone here.  I hope that when my time comes, I have the courage to face it as well as Marty.  Even now, he is an example to all of us.  We Italians believe in celebrating the passing of a loved one instead of mourning.  We are sad for our loss but we celebrate the life our loved one lived.  So, to all of you who read this, when you are with your loved ones hoist one to Marty to celebrate how he lived.  The saints and angels in heaven will be celebrating when he gets there.

With love, respect and admiration.

Chuck

 

 

Dotty, I have always enjoyed my converstions with you and Marty. He always taught me something, not just about trains and the hobby but lots of things in general, life, history, news, etc. I especially like chatting with him at Trainstock and York. I never had a chance to vist the layout but he always remided me the door is open. Thoughts anr prayer for you, Marty and the family.

Kevin 

Every York I’ve gone to since 2003, it did not matter how many people were there, I always ran into Marty (usually near the LCCA table) at some point. I’d ask him if he drove the corvette down, how many York’s was this and talk train stuff and then we would continue on our journeys. One of the many things that always made “York” York for me. When I get to the end of my track, I don’t think I would be surprised to run into Marty, ask him if he drove the corvette down, how many York’s was this and talk train stuff and continue on our journeys. May God bless Marty and his family during this difficult time and always. BigRail 

dottyperry posted:

"...he is content to be where he is for his final days...Now, we sit with him while he sleeps, holding his hand and remembering the good times with him when he's awake."

Godspeed Marty, and what a beautiful image as depicted by Dotty.  You teach us all to the last...

I wish I had met you at some point, but I couldn't be any more sincere when I say "Thank you."

Jim,

from Southeast Pennsylvania.

Without question, some lives transcend for many reasons. Knowledge, expertise, generosity of spirit and the kindness to touch all who seek it out are the mileposts of a life well lived. This will be his legacy.  As the candle flickers,we who were lucky enough to enjoy all those things, when the flame burned bright,are afforded the opportunity to celebrate our luck for having rode the rails with the extraordinary talent that he pocessed and shared without reservation. God speed Marty, clear track ahead-bound for glory.

 

 

I don't know Marty on a personal level on the same level that many do here, but he definitely will be missed.  We've certainly crossed paths a few times at York (and maybe a few OGR/Weaver/MTH tours) over the years and probably had a few short casual conversations.  I know that I have picked up a lot of knowledge/tips/etc from his posts over the years, even if I don't have a specific single example to cite.  His contributions here and to the O Gauge community in general are immeasurable.

A few years ago I recall buying a set of CWI Hi Cube boxcars from Marty.  I'll be making sure to keep those in my collection to remember him by.

-Dave Smernoff

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