Guys, I am sorry but the lot of you have got it all wrong, which is why you are probably in the doghouse most of the time.....
The key is turn the trains off and really romance her, by doing chores or taking her out to a play or the movies or out to dinner once in a while or for three or 4 successive nights.....Use your imagination....Here's a novel idea take her out for a walk and just talk and hold hands...expecting nothing...Sometimes the trains can wait! She already knows what you want, problem is she can't compete with your imagination, fascinate her with what you are doing, eventually she will help you!
I'll tell you what mine has done for me she helped me store my trains when they got out of hand she went and bought me fancy display cases (2 of them)she buys me trains all the time not sets odd cars, she got me a Lionel clock that hangs on the basement wall, she gets me Christmas ornaments that are smaller than HO and don't actually run.
Figure out what really pleases her and do it without being asked, with all this attention suddenly being lavished on her she will ask you what you want, then you can tell her. By this time you will be in the habit of actually dating her again. Bingo she gets what she wants and you get what you want.
Guys, this goes for all of us we need to spend a little less time in our man caves and more time as husbands and partners.
Mike